Carpe Diem

… we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really.

How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more? Perhaps not even that.

How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty?

And yet it all seems limitless.

 

– Paul Bowles, The Sheltering Sky

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We Need Bullies. Our Success Depends On It.

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Bullying and peer ridicule has been around since the beginning of time. One either succumbs or overcomes.

Look at the history of our existence and you’ll find the reoccurring theme of adversity among the short, fat, tall, skinny, talented, successful and afflicted. It’s what makes our stories so great. Hell, where would Hollywood be without bullies to inspire the content we digest? Most have succeeded through the motivation of vengeance and determination to prove their worthiness and capability. They were driven because of insecurity and the need for acceptance. They learned to dig hard through the dip, get up over and over again, suck it up, and fight through.

Our society has bred a generation or two or three of people that think everything must be fair. It’s not and can’t be. If everything is fair and balanced, nothing happens. Imbalance causes movement. There is however Justice…eventually.

I’ve been bullied by a few – and guided by many (Parents, leaders, teachers, and role models). Both sides left an impression. The wise ones who led experienced and endured to come out on the other side. That helped to keep me grounded and taught me to focus on the things that mattered. Over time I learned to take the bad with the good.

Do I still yearn? Yes. Have I succeeded? In some areas. Am curled up in a fetal position begging for everyone to stop picking on me? No. Everyone has to find their own way, and through that we are victorious. 

For those that are begging… Parents, Teachers, Coaches – do your job!  Lead, teach confidence, self worth, proper self esteem, perseverance, and indomitable spirit. Help them embrace the bullying and convert it to empowerment.

The bullies of the world will never go away and they shouldn’t. We need them actually – to keep us motivated and focused to achieve. 

“…it ain’t about how hard ya hit.” ~ Rocky Balboa inspirational speech.

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Still one of my favorites. 

“…it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”

“You ain’t gonna believe this, but you used to fit right here.

I’d hold you up to say to your mother, “This kid’s gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid’s gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew.” And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watching you, every day was like a privilege. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you’re no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow.

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that! I’m always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens.

You’re my son and you’re my blood. You’re the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, ya ain’t gonna have a life. Don’t forget to visit your mother.”

Where Thieves and Pimps Run Free

I originally heard this famous quote applied to the radio business back in the 80’s. It seem to fit then, and in many ways fits just as much 30 years later.

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“The music business is a cruel and shallow money trench, a long plastic hallway where thieves and pimps run free, and good men die like dogs. There’s also a negative side.”

 The phrase that seems to fit just about every business. Feel free (as many have), to apply it to your own profession:

  • TV
  • Radio
  • Advertising
  • Banking
  • Retail
  • Social Media (yeah, I went there…2011 is going to be really interesting I suspect.)

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The original quote is most often credited to Hunter S. Thompson, the “Father of Gonzo Journalism”, although sources and opinions vary. 

As we move into 2011, a brand new year full of opportunity, optimism, perhaps a little fear…a chance to hit the reset button or build on the current base (pick an analogy), ask yourself a some questions:

  • Which will you choose to be – thief, pimp, or good man? 
  • Will you stay in the hallway and do battle? 
  • Is the money really worth the stress and scars?
  • How will you survive? 
  • Are you prepared and trained for that? 
  • If so, how will you rise above and be victorious?
  • Is the pain of staying greater than the pain of leaving?

Or, will you find the EXIT sign for a better, less risky and chaotic opportunity for the life or career you want?

No right answer. No wrong one. It’s your journey.

Just curious. Just sayin’.

Happy New Year.